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Post by Mr. FOLLARD on Dec 7, 2022 15:28:00 GMT
Yeah, but don't let it get you down. It's bullshit, nothing to do with real life really.
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Post by Mr. FOLLARD on Dec 7, 2022 15:33:40 GMT
You do feel silly sometimes, mind. I matched with this girl from Texas a few days ago who told me she studied graphic design and was looking for someone to talk to, mainly. I've learned to be cautious but this one seemed genuine, and anyway what's the harm in chatting? But after a while she started sending me suggestive pictures and said she would do anything I wanted if I would be her daddy. I unmatched her straight away. It's a world I want no part of. But you just end up feeling kind of sad, somehow. Maybe I'm too sensitive.
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Post by Reactionary Rage on Dec 7, 2022 15:38:12 GMT
I’LL BE YOUR DAD
It’s weird isn’t it? Daddy issues. Strangers on the internet.
I dunno man. Something is wrong. You can see it. Sense it.
And the younger generation of women I meet at work are fucking mentalists!
Ach. Time to join some groups perhaps. Italian language classes. CHURCH GROUPS. Any old shit to meet actual woman you might hit it off with.
The funny thing is, do you know what the best dating website was? Myspace. Seriously.
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Post by Reactionary Rage on Dec 7, 2022 15:39:59 GMT
I don’t think it’s sensitive. I think there is something icky about some of this shit. Tinder, hook up culture, sending pics etc
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Post by Mr. FOLLARD on Dec 7, 2022 15:42:03 GMT
Ach. Time to join some groups perhaps. Italian language classes. CHURCH GROUPS. Any old shit to meet actual woman you might hit it off with. My mate does all that - some kind of dance group he's part of, and he's an artist so he goes to classes where there are....models. Mind you he's in Utrecht and I think some of what he tells me is bullshit, but still...you've got to get out there, display yourself, use your eyes, use your charm. I just can't be arsed now and I can't see a time when that'll change.
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Post by tory on Dec 7, 2022 15:47:24 GMT
Deep down, if you want to meet someone in this day and age and you're not working in an environment where you may potentially meet someone, a dating site at least gives you a couple of dates and the chance to meet someone.
The bottom line is that you have to pay something to go out with someone suitable. You've got to commit the money otherwise what is the point? You pay peanuts you get monkeys. That's the reality. Sites that you pay for will vet users and will stop counterfeit or dodgy profiles being created where possible. That's what you pay for - the site's vetting staff sifting through the countless dodgy and fake profiles being created by a warehouse full of Nigerians. I had a running battle with these gangs and the methods they use are increasingly sophisticated - they can now create very lifelike profiles that "feel" real but aren't - and it is only their use of language (they might say pants instead of trousers for example) in idioms and things like that which can cause them to be spotted.
The good thing is that internet dating is now de rigueur and lost its stigma many years ago. If you're a bloke in your 40s and 50s, you are probably in a better position than if you were a woman because, in general, there is a higher ratio of women to men "available" at that age range than in 20s and 30s where it is reversed. Middle-aged men's stupid and weird predilection for much younger women means that there are plenty of beautiful women in their forties and fifties.
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Post by riggers on Dec 14, 2022 20:32:44 GMT
Came out of a long-term relationship almost 8 years ago and found that the world had completely changed and everyone was using these apps. Had a little bit of luck early on, which was quite encouraging,but nothing went anywhere.
In recent years, as trends and the apps themselves have changed, it's become more and more disheartening.
The last two women I pursued anything with were already acquaintances..The first led to a lot of heartache for me,.as we were working together, but I thought that I would be transferring to another location quite soon, so I took the plunge and asked her out (couldn't have started anything while still working together)....this didn't end well,. despite her being broadly agreeable. My move was delayed for various reasons, so it ended up with everyone else knowing my business and me becoming ridiculously obsessed with this girl, but the whole 'drama' of it, everyone else in our workplace knowing put her off...
I then asked out another ex colleague and we had a great night, but the elusive 'spark' wasn't there, so we've decided to just stay friends....
I was reluctantly pondering subscribing to one of the apps for a month or two, because, as others have said above, most of them are really limited unless you pay...
However, last week on Facebook dating (the only one where you can see likes without paying), I matched with a woman who seems great..My age, good looking,same line of work (she's a special needs teacher, I'm a support worker for autistic kids), good taste in music,.good sense of humour and seems really keen...
Spoke for an hour on the phone last weekend, got a date this weekend...Not getting my hopes up too much,.but this is the best result I've had on a dating app for ages.
So,I guess what I'm saying is..these things are really random and you never know what's round the corner.
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Post by tory on Dec 15, 2022 7:27:35 GMT
Good luck!
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Post by Mr. FOLLARD on Jun 2, 2023 23:04:26 GMT
matched with a 26-year-old from Lancaster yesterday and we've been sending each other voice messages and it's great. She's got the loveliest voice, she's a big film and music fan, knows her stuff.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 2, 2023 23:12:36 GMT
It's G catfishing you!
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Post by Stacy Heydon on Jun 2, 2023 23:59:31 GMT
Why would she want to go out with a guy in their 50s though?
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Post by Mr. FOLLARD on Jun 3, 2023 0:03:24 GMT
she doesn't
we're just chatting
(although it's not unheard of, is it?)
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Post by tory on Jun 3, 2023 7:18:15 GMT
You're old enough to be her dad. Doesn't that make you feel weird? Honestly?
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Post by Mr. FOLLARD on Jun 3, 2023 7:34:58 GMT
Not while we're just chatting, no! We talked about Kubrick, Pete Seeger, Scorsese, Talking Heads. In just one evening! that's more than I get in a WEEK from you fuckers!
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Post by Deleted on Jun 3, 2023 7:49:31 GMT
The preluding DiCaprio, Tut Tut tut.
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