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Post by Reactionary Rage on Nov 27, 2020 12:04:21 GMT
Change is Now the Byrds sang.
Funny thing change. I look back on my life and think I've changed quite a bit - partly through necessity - but it's not always easy. There's pain in change but it can be liberating too. Like being reborn or summat.
How have you changed in the last 5, 10, 20 years? Do you want to change? How? What about yourself would like to change?
Do you think people generally change that much? I think there is maybe a tendency to believe that people really don't but I see little changes in people I know, even those, like my old man who I might have thought was too old to change previously. But then part of me looks at people and thinks that who you are at, say, 25 is probably 90% of who you will be at 65. Change can be scary I guess and there is something reassuring about staying the same which may influence people.
Thoughts?
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Post by Deleted on Nov 27, 2020 12:44:43 GMT
That switch to all bran from frosties as made you go all deep n shit dougland.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 27, 2020 12:59:16 GMT
I have quit my job and am moving to a Greek Island. I am 58 in two weeks.The thinking is everyone around my age is worried,worried and even more worried about their jobs and the future. Working longer and pension pots not covering any real future life . The cost of care homes take a lifetimes of savings away , Brexit and watching the loss of customers in my old job. Fuck it I thought. I am going to be poor unless I kill myself working. Might as well be poor in the fucking sun. I am 70 in 12 years. Time for one last adventure. I have changed because the promises and dreams of the past are not reality.
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Post by cousinlou on Nov 30, 2020 13:26:03 GMT
Change is Now the Byrds sang. Funny thing change. I look back on my life and think I've changed quite a bit - partly through necessity - but it's not always easy. There's pain in change but it can be liberating too. Like being reborn or summat. How have you changed in the last 5, 10, 20 years? Do you want to change? How? What about yourself would like to change? Do you think people generally change that much? I think there is maybe a tendency to believe that people really don't but I see little changes in people I know, even those, like my old man who I might have thought was too old to change previously. But then part of me looks at people and thinks that who you are at, say, 25 is probably 90% of who you will be at 65. Change can be scary I guess and there is something reassuring about staying the same which may influence people. Thoughts? I am not sure about that but I lean towards thinking they don't. In different life phases people might surpress or exaggerate some of their personality aspects but as they get older I think they are less inclined to do so. Obviously people's habits may change over time but I don't think their personality does. I am of course talking about regular lives of people that haven't gone through deeply traumatic experiences.
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Post by oleandermedian on Nov 30, 2020 16:12:13 GMT
I have quit my job and am moving to a Greek Island. I am 58 in two weeks.The thinking is everyone around my age is worried,worried and even more worried about their jobs and the future. Working longer and pension pots not covering any real future life . The cost of care homes take a lifetimes of savings away , Brexit and watching the loss of customers in my old job. Fuck it I thought. I am going to be poor unless I kill myself working. Might as well be poor in the fucking sun. I am 70 in 12 years. Time for one last adventure. I have changed because the promises and dreams of the past are not reality. Best of luck to you - that sounds like a very brave move you're making.
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Post by sloopjohnc on Nov 30, 2020 16:45:29 GMT
Well, at 39 in 2000, I was waist deep in fatherhood with one toddler and another on the way. I had a job I really liked and everything okay. Considering ending my hoops career before people could tell me I should quit and started playing guitar again as a main hobby instead. Things were good - I was probably as busy as I ever was, more carefree than I should have been, but managing.
At 49 in 2010, I was knee deep in drinking, lost a job, the kids were getting older and I wasn't as responsible as I could be. I could not manage the pace as easily as before. I was getting grumpy. Very turbulent times - I had to take stock of my life, but didn't want to face it and used drinking as a crutch to forget.
At 59, I'm having to make some hard decisions. Kids are leaving home or close to it. I was talking to my daughter yesterday and she kinda resents me moving to Oregon even though I told her I can't afford the Bay Area anymore. She's on the brink of adulthood too and I think she's scared of the responsibility looming. I told her that she and her brother are coming to an age where they will be forging their own lives and careers apart from relying on mom and me and I fully expect to not have very much contact with either in the coming years, and that's how it goes. They're afraid their mom is getting a bit ditzy and I'm kinda the sensible rock that gets things done and I'm not going to be around much anymore. I told her that they have to start figuring out things for themselves now. It's hard, but they can do it.
I also told her I'm looking at the back nine of my life - she thinks I'll be the Keith Richards of the family, but I think that's wishful thinking on her part.
I fully expect one of them to give me a call in a year and ask to move up with me in Oregon. Which is fine.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 30, 2020 17:06:39 GMT
I have quit my job and am moving to a Greek Island. I am 58 in two weeks.The thinking is everyone around my age is worried,worried and even more worried about their jobs and the future. Working longer and pension pots not covering any real future life . The cost of care homes take a lifetimes of savings away , Brexit and watching the loss of customers in my old job. Fuck it I thought. I am going to be poor unless I kill myself working. Might as well be poor in the fucking sun. I am 70 in 12 years. Time for one last adventure. I have changed because the promises and dreams of the past are not reality. Best of luck to you - that sounds like a very brave move you're making. Ah, you only have one life. The only thing I am scared about is my hifi and music arriving in one piece. As long as I have my music I am ok.
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Post by daveythefatboy on Nov 30, 2020 17:20:34 GMT
I don’t FEEL like I’ve changed a lot. A bit more comfortable in my skin. Less confident that I know anything, but more confident that i can figure out what I need to figure out.
When I see old friends, it is a mixed bag. The ones who have most moved forward are basically satisfied with their lives tend to reconnect easily and regard me as pretty unchanged. The ones who seem less okay with how things have gone tend to regard me as if I’ve gotten stuffy. Maybe that’s what they need me to be.
But I don’t know. I’m at the happiest point in my life. I can’t judge how much I’ve changed. I mean... I hope I’ve grown. Otherwise, what was all of this about?
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Post by Deleted on Nov 30, 2020 17:25:43 GMT
You know when people meet you again years later and laugh and say "you haven't changed a bit" How do you feel about that?
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Post by ~ / % ? * on Nov 30, 2020 17:35:02 GMT
possibly right superficially, and then how well did they really know you, if you haven't seen them in years?
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Post by daveythefatboy on Nov 30, 2020 17:37:44 GMT
Isn’t that just one of those things you say...
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Post by bungo the mungo on Nov 30, 2020 17:44:22 GMT
I have quit my job and am moving to a Greek Island. I am 58 in two weeks.The thinking is everyone around my age is worried,worried and even more worried about their jobs and the future. Working longer and pension pots not covering any real future life . The cost of care homes take a lifetimes of savings away , Brexit and watching the loss of customers in my old job. Fuck it I thought. I am going to be poor unless I kill myself working. Might as well be poor in the fucking sun. I am 70 in 12 years. Time for one last adventure. I have changed because the promises and dreams of the past are not reality. are you serious? good luck if you are. i've heard that there's plenty of cartes in mykonos and that everyone is very bold.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 30, 2020 17:51:51 GMT
I have quit my job and am moving to a Greek Island. I am 58 in two weeks.The thinking is everyone around my age is worried,worried and even more worried about their jobs and the future. Working longer and pension pots not covering any real future life . The cost of care homes take a lifetimes of savings away , Brexit and watching the loss of customers in my old job. Fuck it I thought. I am going to be poor unless I kill myself working. Might as well be poor in the fucking sun. I am 70 in 12 years. Time for one last adventure. I have changed because the promises and dreams of the past are not reality. are you serious? good luck if you are. i've heard that there's plenty of cartes in mykonos and that everyone is very bold. Yes Skope, really. I dig their vibe more than the UK. What's the worst than can happen ?
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Post by Deleted on Nov 30, 2020 17:55:03 GMT
Isn’t that just one of those things you say... More often than not I guess.
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Post by Sneelock on Nov 30, 2020 19:10:36 GMT
I think the real trick to answering this question is in the people who "get" you. no matter how the facial hair and the carbs affect how you look - no matter how your politics and personal habits may change-they GET you - the real you. one of life's great pleasures is to sit down with someone you haven't seen in years and to just fall into a comfortable place with them. this is who you really are IMO.
you'll sit with some people and find yourself unable to do this but it surprises me sometimes how often I am able to do this and with who.
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